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#LGBTQHMCalendar Day 26: Five ways to be a visible LGBTQ Role Model or Ally today (and every day)


Wear it

I wear my rainbow laces everywhere and people really do notice. There’s no shortage of t-shirts and badges you can buy with LGBTQ inclusive messages.

Tell your friends

Use your social media accounts to share LGBTQ news stories, role models, campaigns and why it matters to you. You could just share this blog post. Lots of my friends on Facebook are friends I’ve carried with me from school, uni and faith spaces. They may not always hear about LGBTQ inclusion.

Chat with colleagues

Next time you’re in the kitchen, ask them if they know it’s LGBTQ History Month. Or tell them about that really interesting LGBTQ book or article you read.

Make a change

Have you noticed something that can change in your workplace or community group to be more inclusive of LGBTQ people? Email a leader about what’s wrong, how it can be changed and why it’s important. Offer to talk to them more about it in person.

Speak up

The sad reality is it’s not always safe to be a visible role model or ally:

  • Two in five trans people (41 per cent) have experienced a hate crime or incident because of their gender identity in the last 12 months.
  • More than a third of LGBT people (36 per cent) say they don’t feel comfortable walking down the street while holding their partner’s hand (Stonewall, 2017).

You can report any homophobic, biphobic or transphobic behaviour that happens to you or you see happening. This could be in your workplace, in public, or online. You can also support your LGBTQ friends when you hear they’ve been a victim of an attack.

It’s your choice of when and how you are a visible LGBTQ role model or ally. It’s OK not to be visible all the time.

#LGBTQHMCalendar Day 25: Support an LGBTQ group


Today’s post is guest written by Hannah Graeber.

As enriching as it is to celebrate history, it is also important to look forward, and ask ourselves what we can do to further our community’s wellbeing, rights, and sense of community.

With that in mind, and in celebration of day 25 of LGBT History Month, here are five suggestions for charities that you can support in a variety of ways, in diverse locations across the UK.

The Albert Kennedy Trust

It is estimated that 25% of homeless youth in the UK identify as LGBTQ+. Considering that estimates of the percentage in the total population rarely exceeds 10%, it can safely be said that the 25% figure is disproportionate.

Due to evidence that there are often specific reasons why LGBTQ+ young people become homeless, and that therefore specific solutions are often required, a group of volunteers decided to set up The Albert Kennedy Trust.

The trust was founded in 1989, and has been providing safe homes, mentoring, training, advocacy, and support to young people ever since.

This year, AKT will be celebrating its 30th birthday, and takes on volunteers on an ongoing basis for a variety of roles, such as champions, mentors, and fundraisers.

Currently, they are actively looking for suitable people, who are over 25 and located in London, Greater Manchester, and the North East, to host vulnerable young people.

The TIE Campaign

The very existence of LGBT History Month indicates to us that there is a lot of work to be done to combat the erasure of contributions to society by marginalised people in terms of their sexual and/or romantic orientations and gender identities.

The TIE (Time for Inclusive Education) Campaign is a Scottish charity that was founded in June 2015, in order to remedy exactly that. They believe that the inclusion of LGBT role models and history, as well as the current issues facing the community, is an essential part of education.

In addition to running a national, political campaign for inclusive education in all schools, TIE also provide assemblies, workshops, teacher training, and resources, all free of charge.


In addition to celebrating our achievements and successes, it is also important that we take time to take care of each other when things go wrong.

In amongst celebrations of steps forward for equality such as marriage rights, where a pressure to present ourselves as upstanding, fine members of society is often present, it can sometimes be forgotten that just like cis, straight, allo people , we too can have issues within our relationships. (Allo is short for allosexual, meaning people who experience sexual attraction).

As well as dealing with the effects of hate crime and sexual violence, Galop, founded in 1982, provides services for survivors of intimate partner violence.

Like the Albert Kennedy Trust, Galop recognises that there are often extra or different issues specific to the LGBTQ+ community, which cannot always be solved by mainstream services.

Galop are looking for donations for their helpline, support services, and outreach, and are open to applications to volunteer on an ad hoc basis.

Intercom Trust

The Intercom Trust works across Cornwall, Devon, Dorset, and the wider South West, providing services such as counselling, training, advocacy, and consultancy.

They have also compiled an extensive directory of groups and services in the region, and run a confidential, non-judgemental helpline.

As well as their team of dedicated staff, who have been training organisations and groups such as the police, schools, and healthcare professionals since 1997, Intercom Trust also has a small team of volunteers, which welcomes all new, skilled applicants.

Birmingham LGBT Centre
The centre provides services relating to sexual health, wellbeing, and mental health, as well as fitness classes and peer mentoring.

You can also find a range of social groups on offer, which provide alternatives to the nightlife scene, and encourage people to meet and spend time with people who can relate to them.

Birmingham LGBT also make a particular effort to reach out to older LGBT people, and LGBT asylum seekers; two groups who can be vulnerable to being put last on the list when it comes to services and advocacy.

The centre accepts one-off and regular donations, and are opening their ext round of volunteer training in Spring 2019.

Whether it’s donating time, money, skills, or a combination of all three – these are just five of the many dedicated, life-changing charities currently doing amazing things for the LGBTQ+ community, needing continued support for their vital work.

If you don’t see anything local or feasible in this list in terms of your location or skills, perhaps it can instead give you a few research ideas if you would like to find something similar in your own region.

Happy helping!

#LGBTQHMCalendar Day 24: Thanking role models


We’re into the last week of the LGBTQ History Month Calendar. The final five days has some actions and reflections to bring together everything we’ve learnt and discovered.

Today’s action is to thank an LGBTQ role model. This could be sending a friend a postcard, baking a cake to share with a colleague tomorrow or tweeting your thanks to a famous LGBTQ person.

Remember, our role models aren’t perfect. Your thanks doesn’t need to be profusive or about every part of their life.

What do you especially admire in that person? How have they helped you personally and LGBTQ communities?

Let them know the impact they’ve had, and how much you appreciate it. If you’ve got the time, thank someone else too.

#LGBTQHMCalendar Day 23: Reading


It’s super easy to find LGBTQ content to read, whether it’s articles from the mainstream or LGBTQ specific press, young adult (YA) novels that never make an identity a problem or poetry, memoirs and history books.

My top tip for finding LGBTQ books to read are the same as finding any book to read:

  • Browse, either online looking through recommendations, bestsellers lists or going into your local bookshop or library. My local council libraries helpfully put all LGBTQ fiction and non-fiction books together in one place. And if you’re in London, don’t forget about bookshop Gay’s The Word, 40 years old this year.
  • Ask your friends: currently I’m reading The Miseducation of Cameron Post, which a friend lent to me ahead of our book club meeting
  • Keep reading how you want and what you want: it’s good to read what you like and hopefully that will include different voices and different types of books. Last week I bought a Heartstopper, a graphic novel. Queer: A Graphic History is also an exceptional read.

So, what’s on your reading list?

#LGBTQHMCalendar Day 22: Intersex Role Models


Intersex is a term used to describe a person who may have the biological attributes of both sexes or whose biological attributes do not fit with societal assumptions about what constitutes male or female.

Intersex people may identify as male, female or non-binary (definition from Stonewall).

LGBTI or LGBTIQ might be an acronym you see, with I standing for intersex. (I chose not to use it for this calendar, because I didn’t think I was talking enough about intersex identities throughout the month).

It’s irrelevant if an intersex person identifies as queer or not for LGBTQ people to care and campaign for intersex rights.

There is the common experience of discrimination and stigma against a group of people who don’t fit society’s broad heteronormative template.

Here’s some resources to learn more about intersex rights and role models:

#LGBTQHMCalendar Day 21: Local LGBTQ groups


Before working at an LGBT charity and being ‘out on the scene’ (going to LGBTQ venues), I started going to a group for LGBTQ Christians and people of faith.

This was where I met my friend Adam and haven’t looked back. Now I’m a member of London Frontrunners, the LGBTQ running club. These groups and the friends I’ve met have let me be me.

Local LGBTQ groups and events can be vital, providing a space where you can just be your identity, rather than explaining or justifying your identity to anyone.

They also provide a chance to meet people away from the bars and alcohol.

These community groups keep going and thriving because of the time, money and effort that people generously put into them.

Pride events, especially outside our big cities, only thrive because local LGBTQ people and allies make the events happen.

What local groups and events are in your area? One I’m going to learn about today in area is Rainbow Growers. Your local council website might list some groups in your area.

There’s also lots of groups on Facebook and Twitter that you can support and be a part of.

#LGBTQHMCalendar Day 20: Disabled LGBTQ Role Models


LGBTQ people who are disabled can experience discrimination in their local LGBT community and are more likely to have experienced homelessness (Stonewall, 2018).

Many local LGBTQ communities are focused on bars and venues, which often lack accessibility for everyone. Drag queen Sugar Cube runs the Disabled Queer and Here night, next happening on 28th March at Two Brewers, Clapham.

One prominent LGBTQ disabled role model and activist is Nyle DiMarco. The American actor and model is deaf and often shares how to sign videos on his social media channels.

Another role model is Claire Harvey, who was the British Sitting Volleyball captain

I’m also thinking about my queer disabled friends and colleagues today, and what I can do and ask them to make sure I’m not unintentionally excluding them.

Who are your disabled LGBTQ role models?

#LGBTQHMCalendar Day 19: The Asexuality Flag


Today’s post is a guest blog by Hafsa Qureshi

In response to Joey’s LGBTQ History Month calendar, I wanted to challenge myself. I’ve been working to raise visibility for people of colour and faith within the LGBTQ community.

As a member of those communities, I feel I have some knowledge about our divergent experiences.

However, like many of us inside and outside the LGBTQ community, I am constantly learning. Popular society has begun to view gender and sexuality as more fluid than ever before.

In my aim to learn about less represented sectors of the LGBTQ community, I chose to look at and write about today, Day 19: find out when the asexuality flag was designed.

To learn about the history of the asexuality flag, I wanted to learn more about what asexuality is. The Asexual Visbility and Education Network (AVEN) describes an asexual person as ‘someone who does not experience sexual attraction’.

Asexuality is described as an umbrella or spectrum. This ranges from individuals who only experience a romantic or aesthetic attraction to others, to those that experience neither.

There are asexual individuals that lie between the two, known as ‘grey-ace’. A demisexual for example is someone who only experiences sexual attraction to someone once an emotional bond has been formed.

Due to this spectrum, how asexual or ‘ace’ people choose to identify can vary. As such, great thought went into designing a flag that would represent all these aspects and nuances.

Users from various asexuality forums voted that they wanted a flag to represent asexuality. Some felt that AVEN’s triangle symbol was representative of the organisation, and that a separate symbol for the wider asexuality community was needed.

The flag was designed by an AVEN forums user and was chosen by vote on August 2010. The flag consists of 4 stripes, black, grey, white and purple.

The Asexuality Flag

The black symbolises asexuals, grey for demisexuals and grey-aces, white for sexuals (those that experience sexual attraction, also known as ‘allosexuals’), and purple for the asexuality community and those that surround them.

As far back as 1948, sexologist Dr Alfred Kinsey added a grade in his sexuality scale for asexuality. Despite asexuality’s long history, the asexuality flag allows for greater visibility for asexuality across queer and non-queer spaces.

Since 2011, the asexuality flag has been used at LGBTQ pride events, in the news and across social media. Emi Salida, YouTuber and asexual activist says: ‘Sexuality and romantic identity are fluid and what I fundamentally know about myself now is that I’m asexual and proud.’

In researching the asexuality flag, I learned a lot about the history of asexuality itself, and how the asexual community worked together to create a symbol that represents who they are.

What will you challenge yourself to learn about for LGBT history month?

#LGBTQHMCalendar Day 18:Non-binary role models


Non-binary people have a gender identity that sits outside of the (socially constructed) binary where male and female are the only options.

A non-binary person might use gender neutral pronouns they/them, or they might use he or she. They have no legal recognition in the UK.

Non-binary people are trans people. You cannot say you support trans rights and trans people if you don’t support non-binary people as part of that.

My hometown non-binary role model is food writer Jack Monroe. Fox (a filmmaker) and Owl (a columnist) are a couple, and prominent non-binary people in the media.

I’m also thinking today of my non-binary colleagues and friends. As a friend commented on my piece about trans role models, all trans (including non-binary) people are role models for being themselves when the world constantly tells them not to be.

#LGBTQHM Calendar Day 17: Different generations


Yesterday after a morning 10k in Hyde Park with LGBT running club London Frontrunners, I was chatting to Michael. I’ve been in club member for 8 months. He’s been a member for over two decades.

I’m fortunate that I have amazing queer friendships with LGBTQ people who help me navigate my gay life now. That’s usually means me saying far too too much about my love life. But often those friends at work or at the bar are the same age as me.

Talking to older or younger generations gives a different perspective and insight. For older LGBTQ people, this might be first hand accounts of the AIDS epidemic or their first romances when homosexuality was still illegal in the UK.

For younger LGBTQ people there’s often a fearlessness in sharing their identity and being visible role models and allies to all LGBTQ communities.

We also know that bullying in school and LGBTQ youth homelessness is a huge problem as well as loneliness and isolation for older LGBTQ people.

Today is a chance to hear the stories of people who you don’t always chat with. If you have personal LGBTQ friends who are younger or older, give them a message today.

If you don’t have someone directly to talk to, then you can listen. Find out more about the work of Albert Kennedy Trust or Opening Doors London.